Free Codependency Support Group
Tue, Dec 17
|Zoom Meeting
A weekly online support group to identify and heal from codependent struggles and behaviors.
Time & Location
Dec 17, 2024, 8:00 PM – 9:30 PM
Zoom Meeting
About the event
Codepedency, An Emerging Issue, a book by Robert Subby describes codepedency as; "an emotional, psychological, and behavioral condition that develops as a result of an individial's prolonged exposure to, and practice of, a set of oppressive rules - rules which prevent the open expression of feeling as well as the direct discussion of personal and interpersonal problems." Â
Some charateristics of copdepency include:
- thinking and feeling responsible for other people's feelings, thoughts, actions, choices, wants needs, etc.Â
- feeling anxiety, pity and guilt when other people have a problem
- feeling angry when your help isn't effective
- anticipating other people's needs
- wondering why others aren't doing the same for youÂ
- finding yourself saying "yes" when you really want to say "no"
- doing things you don't really want to be doing, doing  more than your fair share of the work, and doing other things people are capable of doing themselves.
- not knowing what you want or need, if you do, telling yourself your needs arent important.Â
- trying to please others instead of yourself
- feel safest when givingÂ
- feel insecure or guilty when people give to you
- feeling sad because you spend so much time giving to others when others do not give to you.Â
- finding yourself attracted to needy people
- find needy people attracted to them
- feel bored, empty, and worthless if there is  no crisis in your life, problem to solve, or someone to helpÂ
- abandoning your routine to respond to, or do something for someone else
- taking things personallyÂ
- fear of rejection
- blame yourself for everything
- pick on yourself for everything, the way you look, feel, act, behave.Â
- get angry, defensive or self-rightgeous when receiving critisism. Â
- reject compliments or praise
- fear rejectionÂ
- tell yourself you cants do anything rightÂ
- feel a lot of guiltÂ
- become afraid of letting yourself be who you are
- think and talk a lot about other peopleÂ
- lose sleep over problems or others people's behavior
- try to catch people in acts of misbehavior
- focus too much energy on other people and problems.
- don't see or deal with their fear of loss of controlÂ
- they you know best how other people should act and behave
- try to control events and people through helplessness, guilt, coercion, threats, manipulation
- feel controlled by events and people
And others as listed in "Copdepedent No More" by Mealdoy Beattie
If this sounds like you, you might be suffering from codepedency. Â In our weekly support group, we will review a relevant reading to help you set boundaries and regulate your emotions to gain some regulation and safety in your own life. Â Sign up to join the online group today. Â